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This article was originally published by Built In.
The old way of working is dead. Its death throes began decades ago, and the COVID-19 shake-up has slammed the lid on the coffin.
In a world of flux, we all have to be 24/7 learners, innovators and collaborators. Yet most companies continue to allow, encourage or even force workers to keep up their old rugged-individualistic, head-down, fear-driven, Industrial Revolution-era ways. Many leaders don’t even realize these old-school dynamics are at play in their company. And if they do, they may not know how dangerous they are.
No business can compete for long in a marketplace that requires constant transformation when people show up to work in a way that squelches innovation. And it doesn’t matter how much you insist your culture is innovative if the behaviors happening around you inhibit innovation. (To paraphrase Emerson, what your employees do speaks so loudly that no one can hear what your mission, vision or values say.)
The new way of working requires employees to continuously learn, unlearn and relearn so they can adapt to the reality of the world as it evolves. I call this “hyper-learning,” and it requires leaders to lead in a way that encourages this to happen.
My new book, Hyper-Learning, identifies seven foundational behaviors that are necessary for people to be hyper-learners. They’re a good yardstick for any organization. Look around. If you don’t see these seven behaviors in action, you don’t have an innovative culture. The proof is in how people act every single day.
Behavior 1: Managing self
The best thinkers, the best learners, the best collaborators and the best listeners have learned how to manage their inner world: their ego, mind, body, and emotions. This means people have a quiet ego and are open-minded and good at not knowing things. They don’t reflexively defend, deny or deflect when someone challenges them. They are willing to change their position when they get better evidence. When talking to others, they have a quiet mind and are fully present and focused totally on listening and trying to understand what the other person is saying. They control their negative emotions and rarely fly off the handle.
Red Flags: A person who can’t “manage self” always has to be right. Others may describe them as defensive, arrogant, judgmental or super-opinionated. A person who frequently interrupts people or who multitasks while listening to others. A person who behaves in disrespectful ways or can’t control their emotions. A person who raises their voice or who glares at people.
Behavior 2: ‘Otherness’
No one achieves success by themselves. In the Digital Age, their success will be highly dependent upon their ability to build caring, trusting relationships at work that enable the highest levels of thinking and learning with others. Otherness is a mindset — a belief that they need the help of others to see what they don’t see because of their tendencies to seek confirmation of what they believe. Otherness is a behavior — behaving in ways that show they respect the human dignity of the other person. Success in the Digital Age will require otherness. A competitive survival-of-the-fittest mindset will be the quickest pathway to failure. This person’s biggest competition in the Digital Age will be themselves, not others.
Red Flags: A person who rarely asks others for help. A person who believes he is better than most people. A person who views each conversation as a win-lose, zero-sum game. A person who will not prevent someone from doing something wrong because they want them to fail. A person who gossips negatively about others. A know-it-all. A braggart.
Behavior 3: Emotionally connecting in positive ways
The science is clear: Positive emotions enable better learning, better decision-making and more willingness to explore, create and innovate. A positive emotional work environment comes about because people bring their positive emotions to the conversation. They understand the power of slowing down to be fully in the moment, and they express their positivity by smiling, by their tone of voice, by their calmness and by the words they choose to use. They behave in respectful ways to others — even if they disagree with what is being said. They express gratitude often (i.e., “thank you,” “I appreciate that,” or “you are kind”). A positive emotional environment in a meeting liberates people in that people can sync their positivity with each other and be fully engaged without the limitations of worries, insecurities and fears. People can be their best selves, so you have the opportunity to have high-quality conversations that can result in team flow that can lead to “wow” results.
Red Flags: People who are rude to each other. People who use body language that says, I am not really listening to you or I am dominant. People who put down others. People who are closed-minded or not engaged. People who are constantly interrupting or raising their voices and moving forward, getting ready to attack verbally.
Behavior 4: Effective collaboration
This begins with leaders. They know how to set up meetings so that people feel psychologically safe to join in. Leaders have created an environment where collaboration is not a competition — an environment where people care about each other and trust that no one will do them harm. During meetings, people are fully present, attentive and connected to each other. Everyone gets to speak. People challenge the status quo and seek the best possible idea, regardless of the status or position of who suggested it.
Red Flags: The highest-ranking people dominate and aggressively push their views. Meetings are not genuine open discussions. Instead, the answer is predetermined, and the real goal is consent and compliance. Some people don’t speak up at all. Too often, critiques get personal.
Behavior 5: Reflective listening
People who exhibit this behavior allow others to talk. They reframe what they think the other person is saying to make sure they understand. They ask clarifying questions before telling, advocating or disagreeing. When they do disagree, they critique the idea, not the person.
Red Flags: People don’t make eye contact. They interrupt. They multitask during meetings. They are great tellers, not listeners. Their egos are wrapped up in showing the speaker that they are the smartest person in the room.
Behavior 6: Courage
In the Digital Age, everyone will have to excel at going into the unknown and figuring things out. That takes courage: the courage to try. A person with courage is willing to experiment, even though they know they might fail. They also understand that most learning comes from having conversations with people who have different views. They don’t mind having respectful but difficult conversations. You’ll find them volunteering for new projects, openly sharing their views, and asking for lots of feedback.
Red Flags: People are unwilling to take risks. They seem guarded and closed-lipped. Because they fear making mistakes or looking bad, they rarely step out of their comfort zone.
Behavior 7: Evidence based decision-making
When employees possess this behavior, they are not married to their ideas. They are more open-minded. They never assume. They are always seeking data, even if it will disprove their theory or even force a return to the drawing board. They seem to get the statement “I am not my ideas” on a deep level.
Red Flags: People defend their ideas even when there’s no data to support them. They rarely ask for the input of others (and if it’s given, they don’t listen to it). They are invested in being “right.”
If you see most of these seven foundational behaviors in action, you’re on the right track. If you see a lot of red flags, you’re in trouble. The good news is that people can change their behaviors.
It takes a lot of intentional work. But as is always true, the first step is admitting you have a problem — and the second is realizing the upside of changing outweighs the downside of not changing.
Published October 12, 2020 — 06:30 UTC